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      Tired@soul
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      Hi all I’m a complete mess he left just over (removed by moderator) weeks ago been together a long time the last three years have been really bad I reported him to the police (removed by moderator) on something that happed sexually (removed by moderator) the thing is now I’m scared I might have done the wrong thing he’s been arrested for rape strong word I know and cus he lives with (removed by moderator) she’s just rang me asking what the hell is going on and basically victim blamed me cus we’ve been together over (removed by moderator) years. I feel so sick. I’m so scared to tell my boys who are old enough to understand but I’ve never ever told them about anything sexual that’s happened I’m scared I’m gonna lose my boys please help

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      Lisa
      Main Moderator

      Hi Tired@soul,

      It’s understandable that you’re feeling in a mess, you’re going through such a lot right now. After going through years of abuse, experiencing sexual violence, and reporting him to the police, you deserve to be validated and empowered, not blamed. None of this is your fault. He is responsible for his own behaviour, a choice he made about how to treat you.

      You don’t mention any support in your post. There is specialist support available, should you want it. Your local domestic abuse service and Rape Crisis are two services you could reach out to. Share here too as you need, you’re not alone.

      Take care and keep posting,
      Lisa

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