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I discovered recently that my husband has been emotionally abusive. The abuse has been lots of little things over time that have built up. I’m now in the process of trying to figure out if it’s worth staying together and giving him a chance or just ending it. I wondered if you had any advice for what to look out for to determine which way to go? As I understand it there are certain things that these types of abusers typically say – which should we trust as a good indicator and which should we not trust? Is it really worth giving him another chance? And would separation be a good idea?
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id say in general if you feel he is chipping away at your self esteem/ undermining you/ making you feel like hes taking your liberty away and isolating you then this is a hall mark of abuse. looking back id say always go with your gut. You’ve come on to the forum so your not sure about which way to turn so the helpline would be good starting point. these men manipulate us and make us feel like were crazy and to blame but your not – this is all part off abuse they try to blind side us xx I hope you are ok xxxx much love diymum
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I’d say write down everything you think he’s done that abuse and how it made you feel. Right from day one. Once you recognise abuse you will find he’s probably been abusing you for a very long time already and you’ve already given him chance after chance. Read Living with the Dominator by Pat Craven. In my opinion it always gets worse. And if you call them out they just change tactics. Google Gaslighting. Cycle of abuse. Cognitive dissonance. N**********c abuse victim symptoms. See if anything connects x work on changing your behaviour, your self confidence, your self esteem. He’s not your responsibility to make him change his behaviour. He’s an adult. He chooses to be abusive x
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