It took a long time but I turned it into a good thing. Don’t get me wrong the anxiety and stomach knots stayed but I used it as time to watch all those tv shows he tells me are rubbish and wouldn’t let me watch, took time to have a bath/shower instead of being rushed and read a book instead of being called lazy for sitting down or whatever abuse was usually thrown at me. Realising you can’t stop his tantrum until he randomly decides he’s done (and of course then you’re expected to ignore the fact it ever happened) helped me to stop wishing I could leave work early to see if he’s happy now. All that said, if you’re into depression then it’s best to seek help and chat to your GP or does your work have an EAP line? His actions are doing this to you and that’s not ok. You’ve got choices and options, you don’t have to suffer like this forever xx