Single or divorced? Mrs, Ms or Miss??

[White Rose]

I’ve been getting insurance quotes and every time I fill in an electronic questionnaire there it is – That question. Marital status!!!
Am I single or divorced???
Will I be forever labelled as the victim of a failed marriage?
Will I be lying and make any future insurance claim null and void if I state I’m single when there’s actually a decree absolute in my box file?
Every time I come across it I feel a bit anxious. It makes me remember.
And also – am I a Mrs or a Ms or even a Miss???
I kept my married name as I’ve been known by that longer than the name I was born into, plus it really p’d him off that I did 😊. Does that mean I stay as Mrs or shall I adopt the Ms?? If I become Ms can I call myself single??
I feel single, I’m not fussed to have a “title” I’m happy with my name but am having a bit of an identity crisis at the moment!
I’m interested in hearing what you all do xx

[KIP.]

I changed mine back to my maiden name ASAP. I love being miss…… and I love my new signature and I love being the name I was before I met him. My family name. I know it peed him off that I changed it almost immediately. I think I might put single on the forms from now on. That’s the truth so I don’t see how anyone can object. I hadn’t thought of it before just ticked divorced.

[White Rose]

…..apparently it can be classed as untruthful stating single when divided and theoretically insurance declared null and void
Sorry KIP looks like we’re stuck with it 😡

[White Rose]

*** Oops meant divorced not divided! Not much difference really

[Iwantmeback]

Hi White Rose, you are whatever status you want to be. Once upon a time i was so proud to have his name and be part of his extended family. Not now, once I’m gone, I’ll revert back to my maiden name or i might even change it.✌(That’s me sticking my fingers up to conforming🤣🤣) So long as I’m not defrauding anyone i will use whatever name i wish to be called by. I’ve even got my new number plate looked out😄 I’m not even sure if you have to put down miss, ms,or mrs now, what with all this gender fluidity neutrality.
IWMB 💕💕

[KIP.]

🙈 ok. Maybe I will tick divorced and think thank goodness 😂

[maddog]

I am no longer known as Mrs. I would prefer Modom.
I will be changing my name back to my family name and my invented name. I changed my name a long time ago because of the abuse. It is very complicated.

[Iwantmeback]

Hi all, you can use any name you choose so long as you’re not out you defraud, but you can get over that by changing your name by deed poll is you wish. Fir legal documents jyst say divorced and using maiden name, inform companies so they can update records. As to medical records or dental, they’d have had your maiden name at some point of your life, so reverting back wouldn’t be an issue.
Maybe one day in the future these named labels, married, divorced, separated, widowed, single whatever will be defunct anyway.💜 #21stcenturysuffragettes

IWMB 💕💕

[itwillbeokay]

This is so pertinent to me right now. I hate writing my name, ticking married boxes, saying Mrs etc. I used to be so proud of my married name, the same name as our children, now I just feel confusion about it. It gives me anxiety every time I write it. I call myself Ms on forms as I cannot bring myself to say Mrs.

I was so proud we were married. How things change 🙁

[White Rose]

Hey maddog I will curstey to you from now I Love it!
I really don’t mind my married name it’s one of the more common surnames unlike my maiden name which is incredibly rare. I can hide under my married name but would be so easily traceable if I reverted back. I quite like the relative anonymity and I’ve got used to signing it now. I also want the same name as my daughter…..at least for now. She may change it if she choses to marry at any time.
I might just opt for Ms though..I’m getting to like it…or I may follow maddog’s lead.

[Eve1]

I used to feel very self conscious about using Ms after divorcing. Perhaps because I’m older and it sounded too much like a statement. Now I always use it and I’m happy to. I feel to old to be Miss and I’m definitely not Mrs! I like being Ms.

I don’t feel like ticking the divorced box makes me a victim of a failed marriage. I feel like I got away from an abusive marriage and I’m now independent of him. Might it help to look at it like that?

Love
Eve
x

[White Rose]

Thanks Eve
I’m slowly coming round to Ms WhiteRose not Mrs.
The divorce still irritated me though! Separated I get as it implies sonething not quite sorted, divorced in my book means single not labelling all divorcees as a separate entity!

[Eve1]

I know what you mean. I’m not sure why they need to know our status anyway. Does it make that much difference?
x

[Iwantmeback]

One day hopefully these labels will not be applicable any more.
💕💕

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