Slow process to leave

[Rupi]

Hello,
I am struggling with separation in the sense that because it involves both parts it also depends on him to separate. I have been gathering as much information as I can and we now need to decide if we sell the house or not, if I stay and he leaves etc. hard to make the right decision but I don’t have family anywhere near here and no place to go. He has his family here. I kicked him out of the house due to an incidente which I reported to police and social services but he is back now because “it is his house too”. I did not want him to return before we had a final chat on what to do going forward but seems like we are slowly sliding back to the same s**t day in day out. I had a meeting with a mediator which I paid for but they were like “worried it has only been (detail removed by moderator) since you separated (kicked him out) in your head you may be separated for months but if he is only now realising, mediation might be too soon” I just feel like I am firing in all directions to get help, to get things moving and I feel stuck in same place. I just feel very sad and deflated. We have a baby boy and I really don’t want to continue in this situation for much longer.

[Lisa]

Hi Rupi,

Thank you for sharing with us. It is understandable you feel deflated, it is a lot to deal with by yourself. It sounds like you have taken some great steps forward in gathering information about your options. Have you had contact with your local domestic abuse service to see if they can offer some ongoing emotional and practical support? Details of your local service can be found here.

Keep posting to let us know how you are doing. We are here for you.

Best wishes,

Lisa

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