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I went out (detail removed by Moderator) with a couple of girlfriends for dinner and drinks, we had a really good night. I’m slowly coming around to the idea of being single. My health has been slightly better the last few days.
It is hard knowing a person isn’t good for you but still choosing them over yourself. I’m slowly coming around.
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I’ve been where you are and it’s okay to be single. To date yourself for a while. To take time for yourself to do what you want, when you want. To learn from mistakes and move on stronger and wiser. But don’t be hard on yourself. Abusers make themselves the centre of our universe so it feels like a big hole to fill but you will fill it with wonderful things but it’s gonna take time so be kind to yourself and take baby steps. Zero contact and time are how I got through it. Good riddance to bad rubbish x
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That’s great that you went out and had such a good time. It sounds like you are seeing the benefits of what being single csn bring to your health which is great.
It is really hard when we are so used to prioritising their needs over our own. It feels wrong at first to put ourselves first and not think about what is best for them. I am still working this through myself. Like KIP says, baby steps all the way x -
Yes this is very good and your teaching others the same too 💗💞💗
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The craziest thing… so I’ve been invited to join family abroad for a mini breaK, which I really need. But I’ve yet to book my flight because uuugh I’m worried that when he finds out he will be abusive that I’ve done something without consulting him and prior to having “the talk” about where I stand with him first.
It’s ridiculous it really is. I know where I stand don’t I. Really need to get over this anxious/fearful conditioning that holds me accountable for the relationship not working, and do what the hell I want now. Especially since he ended it with me. He’s given me the push to fly right. What is going on with my thought processes I really don’t know but I figure it must be the way he’s managed to control my mind.-
Yep we’ve been brainwashed, it takes a while to get over that fear and we’re still reacting and worrying how they’ll react to things we do even though they’re not around anymore (I hope you do go and have lots of fun!) they hate knowing we’re having fun and happy so I just try to have more now (that took a while with what they said still in my mind) you do get past it, I’d go, new start new you 🤗💞🤗
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