In the first few weeks after my husband left me following his affair with another woman, I just couldn’t understand why he had done it. I was completely blindsided. There was no warning. But since discovering I had been a victim of DA and understanding more of his personality surrounding this, it makes more sense. So today, when my mind kept wandering to memories of him and the night he left, I felt empowered that I am beginning to understand that it wasn’t my fault. I couldn’t have prevented it. I’d grown too strong for him to control me any more. And more importantly I am healthier without him in my life. Knowledge really is power. So today I did not shed tears for my broken marriage, I celebrated the fact I have a future where I am no longer walking on eggshells or obsessing about his happiness. Today I am free.