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Ive finally opened up to police about how bad things really were. Everything has gone a bit crazy and I feel out of control. I dont feel like I fully understand what is happening and its happening so fast.
Ex was arrested I was told (detail of police proceedings removed by Moderator). They say they need to interview me further and want to interview my child as they were witness to assault. Its been to a Marac meeting and I was told I was high risk, but dont really understand what that means.
Ive completed application for non-molestation order. I feel awful about it all. I feel guilty too I still care about ex, we had been together a very long time and I feel like I have betrayed him, I have been the only stability he has ever had in his life. I always said I would never stop him seeing our child, he adores her, she is his reason for being, but now I have because I dont think hes safe to be around either of us. I find it so hard to believe he could ever put us in this situation.
I still havent told police the full story and I dont really know why I am holding back, maybe protecting him, maybe trying to keep some control I dont know. Ive opened up about the recent stuff, but not things that happened many years ago. I keep telling them this is the first time.
Everything is feeling so confusing at the moment.
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Hi BlueBean24
You have really done the right thing and have protected yourself and your child. You have been very brave in very difficult and confusing circumstances.
High risk at MARAC means that agencies are concerned about the risk your ex poses to you. There is likely to be involvement from various agencies offering support. If you have not already done so then please talk to your local DA agency . Hopefully there will be a worker assigned to you who can help you.
You may hear from Social Services about offering support for you and your child. If you do it is very much in your interests to co operate and take any support offered.
I know you feel bad but please be honest . Any agency safeguarding your child will need to be confident that you are totally honest with them to show them that you will put your child first and not cover up for your ex. You need all agencies supporting you and having confidence in you. Honesty is the best policy. He does not deserve your loyalty. He has chosen his actions and chosen to abuse you. His health is not an excuse.
I hope you get all the support you need.
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Thank you,
I was alocated a support worker in my town, but because I moved out of area to stay with family she said she couldn’t do anything and to call her when I was back, everything kicked off again once I got back. I spoke to her on the phone but because I have cone back out of area she us going to refer me to this areas team.
Social services contacted me last time, but again because I had removed my daughter from the situation and cone out of area they closed things straight away. Sure they will be in contact again next week.
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