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I’m so confused… I thought I was possibly in an abusive relationship… one thing – my partner called me a f*****g moron the other day… but then speaking to a good friend of mine today I said ‘do you every speak badly to you DH?’ She said ‘not really’. I said ‘what’s the worst things you’ve ever said?’ She said ‘I have called him a f*****g idiot’ but she said it in a ‘no big deal’ kind of a way… they honestly have one of the best relationships I know and love each other so much.. so now I’m so confused… my friend is very far from an abusive person…so maybe my own DH wasn’t abusive for calling me a f***ing moron…
Any thoughts here greatly appreciated… my head is spinning a bit…
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Context is key here. Even in the most loving relationships people can have rows and say the odd unpleasant insult in frustration. Everyone I know has occasional arguments especially when there are stressful life events occurring.
It’s more the pattern of the whole relationship and how you are treated, whether it’s a general contempt and a feature of the relationship. Also in a healthy relationship arguments are resolved and people are able to discuss and compromise. One partner should not be walking on eggshells fearing speaking out of turn, or when they will face the next tirade for some minor fault.
So it’s bigger than the language of an insult, it’s the context of the whole relationship. -
Thankyou so much @Marmalade that is very helpful to read and makes a lot of sense… 🙏🙏🙏
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