So this is love

[HugsAndStuff]

Hi,

So I’m in my first relationship after the DA one that happened years ago, and he’s taught me so much about love. Everything down to really little things like, for example, my ex would accuse me of being ‘crazy’ when I reacted emotionally to things he did, he’d blame the pill for my emotional responses, and he’d have me in tears and shouting, begging him to care for me.

I went on the pill again during my current relationship, and because of my last partner telling me the pill made me ‘crazy’ a part of me was worried, but guess what? I’m fine; I haven’t had any moments of crying loads or shouting out of desperation because it was never the contraceptive pill that did that to me in the past, it was my ex and his psychological and physical abuse of me that lead to me reacting like that.

That’s just one thing my current partner has taught me. I’ve also learnt that I don’t think I was really in love with my ex; I think I became co-dependent and mistook this for love back then. Now I know what it really feels like to be genuinely loved and genuinely love back, it’s easy to see that whatever that was back then was not love at all.

I was wondering if anyone else who has gone on to have a happy relationship after DA has noticed a change in themselves? I feel so much more confident in myself, my mood doesn’t change much at all, I’m no longer shouting and crying and begging to be treat better. Because I’m so happy now, I’ve come to realise how miserable and not myself I was back then. Has this happened to anyone else?

[Hereforhelp]

Morning Hugsandstuff, I wanted to say how lovely it is to read that you are happy in your new relationship 😊
It sounds like you have come a long way since the DA relationship and that you see so much more now that you are out, free and now happy with your new partner.

❤️

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