Sociopath vs Psychopath

[Anonymous]

I have done a lot of research on how to know if your partner is an abuser and how to stay safe. I have read a few posts on sociopaths and psychopaths and I cant seem to figure out my fiance.

Psychopaths are classified as a psychopath due to brain activity that went wrong and is causing them to act like a psychopath. Psychopaths often dont even know they are psychopaths and see their behavior as normal and not as destructive. They will not be able to change their ways as this is a way of their lives. A sociopath on the other hand is someone who endured abuse and trauma in some time of their lives and therefore they choose to act like a sociopath and can decide to change their behavior.

My fiance has so many traits of a psychopath, but he also have traits of a sociopath. I would think that he would be classified as a psychopath, but he had a very abusive childhood with his father and grandfather and therefore I would think that he might classify as a sociopath, that he chooses to do what he does.

I know this sounds silly, but it is extremely important for me to know this as on the one side I am hoping he is not a psychopath, that he will choose to change, but on the other side I am hoping that what he is doing, he is not doing out of his own will.

Sometimes I also feel that I abuse him as well and that I might also be a sociopath. Not too sure if it is him making me feel this way, but I am really trying to change my ways. I really do not want to become a horrible monster

Again, I am so confused on how to work through all of this

[Serenity]

I know, this question can do your head in.

I can’t work out quite who my ex is and which.

I think I have decided the nearest thing is a malignant n********t, malignant being an important term.

With all of the above possibilities, I think the fact is that the chances of them change are virtually zero. I think hunk they feel safest operating in the world as they do. They don’t want to lose the power to hat behaving like they do gives them.

[Healthyarchive]

Dear woman in need, one book that I have read recently which goes into great minute detail about dangerous personality types is called Dangerous Personalities by Joe Navarro. It has 4 100 question questionnaires about whether the person is a psychopath,n********t & 2 other types. My ex was an extreme n********t. X

[Ayanna]

It does not matter.
The ex abuser who I married by mistake and who tried to kill me had a very abusive childhood, and I say : VERY

He had had years of treatment for his childhood trauma.
He has had professionals dealing with him for years, supporting him.
When I met him he told me about his childhood.
He appeared to be doing very well and to abhore all abusive behaviour on the outside.
He was handled as a shining example by some and he made his success a profession too.

I also thought he was the perfect man.

We had a long wonderful time together. I could not believe I had met such a perfect soulmate.
Then I got married to him and slowly the abuse creeped in until I was beaten daily and raped brutally and abused in every possible way.

He was such a perfect manipulator that nobody believed me.
Only the police saw through him.
They believed every word I said.
He manipulated all the judges in the courts, his solicitors, the probation officers ….
Whatever he is, a psychopath or a sociopath or both does not matter. He will never change.
I found out things about him later that are shocking.
There is no way this man will ever change.
The only thing to do is to stay away from him for ever. And this is what I do.

And when we already speak of the childhood: I had a bad childhood too. But I did never turn into an abusive person.

[Anonymous]

Morning Ladies

I hope all of you are well

I am sorry for not responding to any of you, I just felt so down these last 2 weeks. Thank you for supporting me xox.

Thank you for the good advise, I am doing a lot of research and it is helping me to realize what is going on. Still struggling to cope with everything though.

[Anonymous]

I asked myself the same question. Ive did loads of research myself .. mine is narrcist he thought he was god and i had to obey him and call him master!!! I do think he had a terrible up bringing .. but i did not deserve to get hurt or abused ..

[Anonymous]

Thank you primbo. I agree, mine too thinks he is a God and I need to worship him. I am glad you got out in time xox

[undertherainbow]

When I was in my nightmare relationship, already suffering with mental health, I convinced myself I was a sociopath! But alas I was mirroring his behaviours and manipulation. I read about this and is quite common! xx

[Anonymous]

Thank you for that undertherainbow. I guess with everything going on it is normal to doubt yourself

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