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(detail removed by moderator) years ago i left my abusive husband, it was on the vegre of me going into a womens refuge, or taking my own life, he turned me to drink and self harm, and i cant seem to shift it from the back my mind. I dont know who to talk too as i feel no one will understand what ive been through.
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Hi sweetie I was really affected by your post and at times was turning to drink and self harm and suicidal and on the verge of going to refuse also.
I think it is only when you have been out a good while that the fog clears slowly and you wake up to how awful your life was. I have done the freedom programme online. It’s only Bout 5 pound. I had one meeting with wa who explained power and control wheel. I did one of wa courses and meeting others who have been thru the same amdceorsexznd survived helped. I notice in myself I still isolate a lot. Don t trust people the same.
The women’s aid course likened the effects of domestic abuse to people who have been prisoners of was.
Rea ding about abusers and how tgry8think made me realise it wasn’t my fault. I did nothing wrong. I just met a predator. I see I started to drink wine before he came in at night to my b myself to the abuse….. we all do things we are not proud of th survive in these awful situations. Go to wa. Read this forum. Go to the doctors if you are depressed. We have survived evil which me a z we need kindness and live8and support from ourselves. Talking to people who understand helps. Prisoners of war get special help. Give yours credit you survivedx
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I often have thoughts of suicide but I would never act on them. I wouldn’t give him the satisfaction. I just wanted to,share so that you know it’s not just you that feels this way. It seems to be something many abused women deal with daily. Hang in there and try to think about the good things you have in your life. The things to be thankful for x
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Hi Skittles
Are you getting and help and support at all with how you’re feeling. Have you spoken to your GP?
I’m not sure if your self harming and drinking were in past or ongoing, but if you’re still struggling have you considered AA? There’s also a lot of self help info on self harm on internet – a lot is geared towards teens but still relevant!
Samaritans are also always there.
Is there anything recent going on in your life that’s triggered the “back of your mind stuff” to be more prominent and weigh on you?
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Hi white rose, the self harm was in the past and so was the drinking, the thoughts are still with me though, i thought about AA in the past but managed to snap myself out of it, in my job role i often see people who have mental health problems, and i think its triggered me, it seems to become more and more everyday, i have no self confidence, my now husband who ive been with for (Detail removed by Moderator)yrs has never seen me undressed, because im ashamed he’ll judge me. Im currently getting no help or support from anyone except you lovely ladies. I know theres women out there going through worse than me x
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We’re all equal where abuse is concerned – nothing’s “worse” or “less” than anyone else’s, it’s all wrong and it’s all damaging.
I’ve read your other post – have courage and seek help from the dept at work. It’s a small but important step.
Does your new man have any idea what you went through?
Take that first step to moving forward further in your happier life. You did the really hard bit years ago when you left xx -
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