Staying strong

[Better-days]

Hi I havnt posted in a while I’m going with my friends overnight in few weeks. They know what he’s like although I do hide what I can from them they don’t know the half of it. While they r all buzzing for the night out. The reality for me is it would be easier to cancel, but I can’t as I would eventually loose my friend group which he would love all last night he was shouting how Theyr fake he he hates them and much worse vile stuff I couldn’t even write on here. They r lovely Theyr husbands have no problem with them going. I mentioned that once and it’s because they don’t care. Honestly everything I do he ruins and I don’t look forward to anything. If said this before before I joined this forum I couldn’t see me ever leaving now I do. I don’t know when but I see a future Without him. We share a mortgage. Iv been looking up rents they are far too expensive. I don’t have social housing in the area I stay. I don’t know where they would house me and what wait times are like. Will I still be offered something if I part own my home? X

[Butterfly-A]

Hi better days,

That situation is so b****y typical of them!, trying to shade your view of the people that make you happy and care about you and then making them out to be the bad person! So frustrating! I hope you do go with your friends, it’s so easy to give in and I know it avoids a lot of the problems but we are just causing further issues for our own MH.

Im useless with housing, but surely they would definitely offer you something giving the circumstances! if you’re in touch with your local DA services they should be able to advise you on this.

I hope you get it sorted, or at least know what your options are.

Take care x

[Better-days]

Thanks for reply I’m definitely going I can’t pull out as I did last time. I will contact them I haven’t done so yet thanks. I can’t believe how much private lets are now i thought that would have been my best option. I know I would probably get some sort of benefit if I left to help but I don’t want to apply for anything while I’m still here it’s all confusing. Thanks again for replying I will call local DA today xx

[spiritedaway]

Hi Better-days – I don’t know about the housing but I really wanted to say I feel for you and see you x Picturing a life is a huge step, it was one of the things that let me finally leave. Hold onto that vision and let it grow it will help give you strength now and once you leave. Keep growing it and making it feel more colourful and real. I often pull up my vision of the future as it really helps me keep moving forward and knowing there is better to come.

[Better-days]

Wow I needed this thank you so much x

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