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So I have stuck to my word and continued to remind him that we are not together, I got into the drs and booked myself into therapy. It’s crazy to notice how many bad toxic traits you pick up yourself through being with another toxic person. I have noticed behaviors in myself that I do not like and are completely out of character but it’s what has built up over time through living and acting a certain way based on another person. I guess it’s just hard considering he continues to say we’re still together and we will be forever and ever. I just try to ignore it and focus on myself and the kids. I do wonder though if there will ever be a day where I am completely free of him and we can move on with our lives separately but as parents to our kids.
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Hello Drainedallthetime,
I just wanted to offer some encouragement on your post, it’s a really big and positive step to make the decision to access therapy, I hope this can be a useful process for you.
The language around ownership that you describe from your ex-partner is a common characteristic of the power and control element of domestic abuse. Insinuating that you do not have a choice whether the relationship continues or not is extremely manipulative and can feel incredibly disempowering. This really highlights the strength it must be taking for you to persevere with being free of him, I imagine it is exhausting at times.
It sounds like you’re doing so well, keep going!Take care and keep posting,
Lisa
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