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    • #33935
      Dragonfly
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      I went back to work today after being signed off (detail removed by moderator), thought I could cope, then I find I’m snapping at everyone. My manager’s just sent me home, I actually think I’m going mad, I’m going to flip. My stress levels are through the roof. Ironically I’ve got to get my cortisol (stress hormone) checked (for another illness) in a couple of days, I know it’s going to be high.

      I really thought going back to work would help me, instead it’s just made me more paranoid, I’ve no patience for anyone, I can feel my mood being very low, I’m shaking and someone told me I was speaking very fast today. I know this is all down to stress. I need to speak to the doctor but there’s non available today!

    • #33936
      Herindoors
      Participant

      Hi Dragonfly. Sorry you are having such a horrible time at the moment. Sometimes work can help when we are stressed by being a ‘normal’ part of the day but mostly its the last thing we need and it sounds like that is where you are at.

      Sometimes we just need to forget about work and take time out for oursleves. Do you know what relaxes you? If so then do whatever those things are, push any feelings of guilt away and just be kind to yourself. You have been through a lot and recovery takes time. We are not used to being selfish and taking time for ourselves but is exactly what we must do.

      Hope you are feeling better soon x

    • #33937
      Dragonfly
      Participant

      The doctor has just phoned me back, she’s suggested more time off work – which ironically stresses me out because it’s time off work! If that makes sense, however I think I need to be off. I like doing little projects around the house so maybe I’ll find something to re-upholster or paint something. This is in my head 24/7. I actually woke myself up last night by shouting at the nightmare. Logically I know I’m going through the motions but this feels worse than just the motions. Think I need to speak to a professional – there’s no way I’m getting depressed again but I can feel it coming on.

      (detail removed by moderator)!

    • #34150
      phantasmagorical
      Participant

      I can relate to this. Some time ago I got signed off sick from work, then when I went back things weren’t really better because of my relationship impacting on every aspect of my life. I was irritable with everyone. I think I’ve argued with someone in every department.

      The impact of stress is frightening. I think we instinctively know when we’re about to take a dive in our wellbeing. A resource for coping with stress recommended exercise and breathing techniques, meditation, to stimulate the centres of the brain for combating stress. I’ve found that focusing on my breathing even for a minute can help to ground me. I hope you’re all right xx

    • #34156
      EeyoreNoMore
      Participant

      Have you managed to speak to a manager or HR at work to explain the situation? They will be able to suppprt you better if they know what they’re dealing with. Also it sets you up better if anything goes wrong work-wise.

    • #34189
      Dragonfly
      Participant

      I’ve told my manager about what happened. She’s not the best at understanding people (she can apparently focus on 5 different things at any one time – imo not really focusing on anything). Although she has been very good with me. Everyone in my team know what’s happened, they’re pretty much all good people.

      I went in to Women’s Aid on Friday and so glad I did. They were great. Then I had to walk past my work on the way home, I met a couple of folk from my team and told them where I’d been, one said “oh that’s great, so glad you feel better, you can now get on with it and have a good xmas”…….. No, that’s not how it works was my immediate thought. I’m still not sleeping, even with sleeping tablets I’m only getting 5 hrs (better than none I suppose). I don’t want to take them every night in case I don’t wake up for my son, he’s a teenager but still needs me obv. I’m way better than I was three wks ago but no matter what I do it’s a constant on my mind.

      I know I’m going through all the stages and I need to feel it to deal with it. I still have the overwhelming feeling of not being believed in court even though everyone believes me!

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