Struggling

[AuntyOof]

So I spoke to the Helpline the other day and they were great and helpful. Phoned my local Rape Helpline but wasn’t able to get a response so I’ll have to leave that now until I get another chance.

Unfortunatley my husband came to bed last night the worse for wear, which wasn’t good for me. I also mulled over my conversation with the helpline the other day and had been asked if I had ever had to seek medical help and said no. However I had a fairly major cancer scare earlier in the year (detail removed by moderator). I had lost a lot of weight and was ill and in a lot of pain and a friend had nagged and cajoled me into seeing a doctor and several scans and internal examinations later it was eventually decided that it wasn’t cancer but they would just do more regular smears to keep an eye on me but it occured to me the other day that what if what they were seeing was ‘damage’ caused by my husbands assault? Now he’s off work (detail removed by moderator)our alchol comsumption will be daily until the day before he goes back to work when I can legitimately reduce it.

[Falling Skys]

Hi AO

Well done for starting the road to freedom xx. Holiday isn’t always the best time for us as there is more opportunity for abuse. I can smell the alcohol a I enter the house and though he’s not done anything for a while it puts me on edge.

The damage that you spoke could have been cause by the assaults from your husband it could be worth asking the question of one of your doctors.

Do get in touch with your local rape team, I have found the counselling invaluable and I am getting calmer and more in control.

keep your self safe, keep posting here the ladies know so much.

FS xx

[Peaceful Pig]

Hi AO, I agree that it’s definitely worth talking to a doctor about what they found and whether they saw anything which could be linked to assault. This could be important evidence for you as well as clarifying things in your mind. I think it would be worth getting the support of the rape organisation first though as they will be able to support you through everything. I can’t recommend my local organisation highly enough, they were amazing xx

[strong soul]

I wish you a safe Christmas. Tonight is the anniversary of the last time my ex assaulted me. He sodomised me whilst simultaneously pushing my face into my pillow causing me to suffocate. When I got up the next day I knew that this was the time to end it. I pray for your safety this Christmas time. Get help as soon as you can. Stay safe X*X

[Nova]

Strong Soul …need to send you some love & know that women here really care about you and each other.
Your a courageous woman who took back her life from the grip of evil.
Thank G & HUGE BIG HUGS

AuntyOOf…my ex plied me with drink I hear what your saying, makes us more volunerable to assault, I used to dilute the drink when he went to the loo, to keep myself alert incase I needed to escape …meanwhile hopefully he’d be drunk and out of it.

Obviously each situ is different, but I did find the less alcohol for me in that potentially dangerous situ helped me a bit.

C X

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