The ungratefulness is unreal

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I’m just thinking about the past I hope you don’t mind me venting here.
Very regularly he would need money or not need want !he worked full time me on benefits.he didn’t want me to work I did at some point but he didn’t want to look after the kids I knew that’s why he wanted me to stay home he didn’t want me to have anything.he wanted to do what he want and earn money for himself.
He would regularly say I get too much money despite it being for the whole family including children.
His earnings only went on him and what I got was mine and kids.don’t know if this would be financial abuse or not.but I do know I went a long time being the only one paying rent and probably got conned a few times on gas and electric without realising.he clearly got more as he spent it on himself he only bought his groceries and I bought everyone’s he regularly dipped into the groceries I bought for the rest of the family without paying towards it usually the expensive meat and things.
But I can’t get over how ungrateful he was he regularly asked for designer clothes and perfume which I bought and when he traveled I was never allowed to go and he would ask for money I would regularly send 100 s he never took us out anywhere as a family it was always me and always me spending money on it .i always had to pay for him to Come in the end I stopped inviting him .i didn’t understand why I always had to pay when we are a couple when I think back every thing was one sided he didn’t love me he loved what I gave him anyway that’s my bit of therapy thanks for listening

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Vent all your want! I just did!
It was definitely financial abuse and very selfish. I went through similar (along with other forms of abuse) although it was kinda the opposite. I worked full time and he was on benefit (and working cash in hand). But it was still a case of me paying everything while he had his money for himself. Sometimes he would get way more than me as his cash in hand job would give him between (detail removed by Moderator) a week on top of his benefit. His money went all on smoking weed and drugs. Then when it ran out he would borrow of me. If I said no he would constantly persist or not talk to me or be really agitated until I gave in. Then he would promise to give it back but I always has to be really nice to him otherwise he would say I wasn’t getting it. Thus controlling me financially.
This is what your boyfriend was doing too, not allowing you anh money to have fun or live your life. He was having it easy too, getting all the things he wanted and not paying his way. That’s what my ex loved…he could do drugs knowing I was there to pay all the bills probably why he let me work

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