Things are looking up

[BananaPancakes-]

I’ve not posted here in a year and I’m finally out the other side.
Through word of mouth I managed to find a house, near my daughters school. The landlords are amazing too and so nice.
Getting out was really difficult and I felt awful because I did all this behind his back but I’ve been out (detail removed by Moderator) months now.
There’s been some really difficult times and trying to co parent with him has not been easy as he still likes to try and control me. However not living in the same house makes it so much easier to Grey rock him when he’s being abusive via message.
I really hope everyone who was messaging similar things to me back then is doing ok and just know that it takes time. It took me a whole year of saying I wanted him to leave to me finally being in the right head space and having somewhere for me to move to. You just got to be determined and strong. Lots of people didn’t agree with my decision but I knew it was the right thing. I still have some doubts where I miss the familiarity of the relationship. But then he starts being nasty again and I know I did the right thing x*x

[Lottieblue]

Well done you! And thank you for coming back here to post – it’s so very important for new members of the forum to have hope from hearing the stories of people like you.
We are all amazing, strong women, all of us, and we can make change, and we can give ourselves a happier future. Just each of us in our own time. But we can do it.
x*x

[Lifebegins]

Hey BananaPancakes

Just what I needed to read this evening – a positive experience! I can’t wait to be in your position with a year having not needed to post. Really happy things are going well for you. You are inspiration to us all xx

[weather]

You did the right thing and your children will be much more happier due to it. I grew up in an abusive household and always remember that (detail removed by Moderator) I had at home with my mum when she divorced being the best. It was all short-lived though, as she went on to marry another abusive man and turned out to be just as abusive as him. I hope you go on to find some solace in the decisions you make, after all, you are all you have right now!

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