This time of year…

[orchid7]

Hi all. Is anyone struggling with this time of year too? With Christmas coming up and the weather change I feel really uneasy. Brings back old memories from this time last year, but the good ones conveniently. I feel sad and I have been thinking about him a lot. Missing the Christmas’s we have had together before and the whole nostalgia of it i think. Anyone got any tips for this next month or so to not be so painful 🙁 xx I can feel it all there and I’m scared it will be too painful to let out so I’m doing everything I can not to feel it properly x

[Freeforever]

Hey, I have recently left my abusive ex he won’t leave so me and my child have had to go every time I see the Christmas adverts on it’s giving me massive anxiety! I just think like this it’s okie one day of the year and it will be over .. we have had some good Christmas over the years we was together but the last 3 have been awful so to be honest I’m kind of happy we won’t be spending it together. Hopefully you can spend the day with family or a friend for support but spent the day with people who love and respect you me time .. good luck ! Xx

[orchid7]

Hi Freeforever thank you for your reply. Yes it’s hard isn’t it. It is making me sad but I feel guilty for being sad because I feel like why should I be sad when my life is so much better. But it’s still there xx

[nbumblebee]

Im still here. (Detail removed by Moderator).
I love it I am a huge xmas fan. He hates it.
Our kids come home we are all together and it fills me with such joy hope and love.
I ignore him, I switch him off he ruins alot of my life I wont let him have xmas I just wont.
Its not about where you live what you have or dont have its the joy the magic the love the hope.
Without hope what do we have?
I understand if you are alone I understand how sad and lonley it may seem, i get sad and feel alone and im still here. What i think we need to do is look for the positives in our situation. If you have left your abuser or your a******e as i call mine then you are free thats a positive right? Its ok to remember good times xmas does that it makes us think back thats ok just try not to think back too much, make brand new memories do brand new things that you can make as your xmas memory box do something just for you no matter how small or big something to treat yourself.
You deserve it right.
Sending hugs xxxx

[orchid7]

Hello thank you so much for your reply. That sentence was very powerful, I felt the loneliest I could possibly feel when I was with him, something that seems to go when I have the rose tints on like I do now. To read those words from yourself reminds me of what it was really like. The pain, the loneliness, just dying for it to be so very different. Thank you so much for your reply, it means the world to have this support when feeling like this x all the best to you and I am so sorry for what you are going through xx

[nbumblebee]

Glad i could help sweetie you take care xxxxx

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