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During the recent coldsnap I was able to see through my windscreen. This is a new experience as I was never allowed to put antifreeze in my screenwash before I left. I had to drive on busy, lorry heavy roads and by the time I got to work on a cold morning I couldn’t really see out of my windscreen because my screenwash was frozen.
Today I’m wearing a Christmas jumper just like the rest of my colleagues. Also a first. I wasn’t allowed a Christmas jumper before.
Those little freedoms (or in the case of antifreeze in screenwash, potentially lifesaving freedoms) that just keep bringing joy to my new, free life.
I know only the ladies on here will truly understand. xx
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Hello eggshells thank you for this post yes I understand the every day things that other people take for granted. This time of year is full of mixed emotions but I’m free to feel them and be safe with my family together and one of those emotions is enormous gratitude to the many services that got us safe and to each and every woman on here for the bravery to share their journey. Thank you 🙏🏻
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Hi Eggshells I call moments like these my ‘silver linings’. My list started 24 hours after he left me and is now pretty extensive! Some light hearted, some pretty heavy. I made a list of them in my phone, and on days when I’m having a ‘wobble’ I open the list and read through it. I always start feeling better before I reach the end. Well done for recognising these important benefits for yourself.
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Hi Eggshells it’s always the small things which continually add up and which wear us down.I am still with my husband but am slowly growing stronger – and he doesn’t like it at all.
So many things happened and still happen with me but Your experience about the Xmas jumper resonates with me. I wasn’t “allowed” to wear polo neck jumpers in the cold weather because he just didn’t like them. After getting the children ready for school, myself ready for work, he made me take the jumper off. I had to secretly put it in a bag to change into at work. He said he found me disgusting to look at. When I said other women at his work wear them he replied he wasn’t married to them. I begged him to allow me to wear it saying that he would only need to tolerate me during the car journey but he became violent and verbally abusive. There is no reasoning with an unreasonable abusive man.
I am so happy to read yours and other posts which offer hope and a different life.
You have been so strong and share with others your experience and new freedoms.
It makes me feel elated that other choices are possible.
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Thank you for all of your responses. I haven’t been on the forum much lately but it’s so lovely to cone back and share your experiences of freedom. I love the “silver linings” What a great idea to write them down.
@Reallyconfused – yes? Other choices are there. Keep moving forward towards your own free choices. xx -
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