Thought I’d feel better by now

[Althea]

Hi, I’m new here I’ve been reading through lots of your posts and have found them really eye opening. Iguess it’s after years of being made to feel isolated. I fled my emotionally abusive relationship with our children just before all the craziness. I finally stood back and looked at ALL his behaviour after having a course of CBT for my anxiety, I then totally freaked out decided I was probably living with a sociopath and fled. When I had mI had our first child I realise I started looking at the world differently and then alarm bells started ringing but it still took me (detail removed by moderator) of to finally accept what was happening. I feel so much guilt about having children with him. I feel nearly (detail removed by moderator) on we still don’t have a proper home and are far away from friends, though near mybfamily. I thought I’d feel stronger by now but I’m still the completely stressed out, distracted and distant mother. I’m unable to stop all my worries and focus on the moments with my kids. I think it’s really damaging them. I’m so overwhelmed, I don’t feel like I’ve escaped 100 percent as we are still communicating for the kids and he’s really nice then bam out comes the monster. I despair of sorting out the tangle of the joint mortgage, finances and finding accommodation, even panicking about feeding kids as my UC is being assessed next month due to equity in the property, will it ever end? Thanks for reading my ramble!

 

[Lottieblue]

Hi there @Althea, and welcome.

It sounds like you need some really good concrete advice and there are several fantastic people on here who are really well placed to give it to you, mainly due to their own experiences. I’m afraid I’m not one of them, as I am still struggling within my relationship and also I don’t have young children. It’s a bit quiet at the moment, not many people on, but do keep coming back as I am absolutely confident that you will get some good advice from someone who knows what they’re talking about.

Well done you for getting out. The only way is up!

LB x*x

[Althea]

Thanks for your reply @Lottieblue I’m sorry you’re struggling. You seem like an amazingly kind and caring person, please remember to care for youself too. That’s what I forgot to do for a really long time
x*x

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