Tired and run down after leaving — any advice?

[Headlightz]

Hello everyone,

I’m new here. I hope you’re all doing ok! 🙂

Just a quick question — I left an emotionally abusive relationship some while back. I’m mostly feeling a lot happier now, but I notice that now I havery some distance from the relationship, I’m often feeling very tired and run down. I get a lot of headaches, I find it hard to concentrate at work sometimes and I keep getting colds (I’m on cold number 4 of the winter, not including a stomach bug and a really bad migraine). This is a bit rubbish.

I suspect that this is related to having felt very stressed when I was in the relationship and in the mess of the months after I left (new job, new town, break-up …). It feels like I borrowed some energy from the future to get through the break-up and now I get to pay it back, with interest.

I’m trying to eat healthily, do some sport (but not too much), sleep enough and be sociable with friends as well as working full time, but feeling constantly tired makes everything feel like much more effort than it should :/

Does anyone else have a similar experience? How long should I be expecting this period of fatigue to last? Any tips on how to get through it or increase energy levels?

[Dragonfly]

Hi Headlightz

You’re in the right place 🙂

You are stressed and you recognise it. Our bodies produce cortisol for a reason. There’s no timescale for respite unfortunately. You’re doing the right things though, eating well, gentle exercise but I bet your brain’s doing something else?!? I can only say try to do things that relax you. Yeah that seems impossible I know but it will pass. Good days/bad days. In times of stress our bodies deal with the most urgent thing and abandon the rest.

You’ve obviously had a lot to deal with, leaving, moving, new job. You may be trying to rationalise things too, I don’t know but keep going and make sure you actually get proper rest. Breathe!!

Keep posting because you’ll get lots of support here. xx

[Confused123]

hi hun

your doing fine and doing all the right things , u dont realize how much it takes it out of us, our body is just responding

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