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(detail removed by Moderator) to my ex and his childish, petty mindgames!
Today I woke feeling horrible about him. His behaviour towards our children is really getting me down.
He takes weeks to respond to my communications and refuses to fully co-parent with me. It is becoming increasingly obvious that his only reason for seeking contact with our children is to get to me. Proving this is difficult.
So, completely out of the blue, he contacts me. I guess he wants me to respond, to be grateful that he’s taken the time to tell me his message. To pretend that he doesn’t ignore me most of the time. To boost his ego and make him feel like the “super dad” he wants everyone to think he is. To allow him to continue living in his delusional world.
Well, no. No, I won’t do that. Time will tell old man and your mask is not permanent. Pretend all you want, but one day your children will see you for who you really are. That will be your judgement day. I’m not in a rush. Just hand me the popcorn and I’ll take a seat for the show.
Today I am telling myself that I am good enough, that I am a great mother and that I am worthy.
What positive things are you telling yourself today? x*x
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Today I spoke out to an audience of hundreds of thousands. I won’t be silenced by abuse. For too long I kept a dreadful secret. If it makes a difference to just one victim I consider it all worthwhile. Today I told myself that I am strong, capable, articulate, confident and there’s a world of hurt going in the opposite direction.
PS If it backfires then I will deal with that too! 👍 -
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What positive and inspiring posts, thank you. X*X
Dear Strube, my ex was big on ignoring and deliberately keeping people waiting, it made him feel superior. He did it to me all of the time. A few times I thought I would mirror him, so when he ignored me, I would then respond by ignoring him, though I would do it for DOUBLE the time (I would actually count the hours/days). It made me feel good and gave me some clout though it takes some thinking about as he would not actually come running which is what was my aim. I expected after i’d ignored him for 1 week he would contact me, he didn’t. It made me re-think exactly what a controlling king of the castle I was dealing with.
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Brilliant post Strube! And when you talk about the mask….wow that’s my husband puts on a mask for all the world to see look at me I am such an amazing Dad when in reality he choose when to be a father… look at me amazing husband….you can all guess what he’s really like…
I am telling myself I am STRONG ENOUGH TO LEAVE and I deserve better.
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