Trauma Bonding?

[Lostandaloneeee]

Hey everyone.
(detail removed by moderator) NC. I can list and see all the bad. Still miss the ‘good’ and most likely the relief like before or not feeling this way any more. Because it’s hard and I can see no end to it atm.
Have read some info on trauma bonding.
Just wondered if anyone had any advice? Or indeed any information about support and help.
Finding it hard to cope with the painful missing him feelings but determined to keep trying to move forward.
Thank you x

[KIP.]

Be kind to yourself and accept that it’s going to take a long time to work through the stages of recovery.Healing from Hidden Abuse is a good book.

[Eggshells]

On the one occasion that I felt like this, I got in touch with friends. xx

[Lostandaloneeee]

Thanks kip. I’ll have a look
Thanks eggshells. Sadly I don’t really have anyone. Didn’t really even notice how much that had happened. Well. Until now.
Think that’s part of the reason this space has been a kinda lifeline tbh.

[Wiseafter]

Hi Lostandlonlee I go on YouTube to listen to support from experts. It really helps and there is plenty of information about trauma bonding. Apparently it is 10 times harder to leave an abusive relationship with a n********t than coming off heroin which says alot about why we stay for so long and ping back like elastic bands even though we know it is not really healthy for us to do so. I am also struggling, mostly I am flat and numb or crying from my soul, or I am so hungry for him to come back, despite knowing he was manipulating me every second. I know I have to go through the pain and out the other side. Seeing and hearing other women speak who have been there and done it gives me inspiration and motivation.

[Lostandaloneeee]

Thank you for your words wiseafter. I’ve been trying to do some guided meditation. Sometimes it’s ok. Sometimes I get too anxious.
You’ve pretty much described what I’m like. Especially ‘crying from my soul’. In my head I know it’s wrong. I can write the lists. I can read the diary. I can see it all. And my brain still seems to prefer to remember the bits I loved and am missing. It’s horrible.

I’m trying to hang onto it will pass. I will be ok. We will be ok.
Just not today.
But I hope that day comes soon. At least that a feel a little less, to use your reference, addicted. 🥺

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