Trauma keeps hitting me – having a low day

[pookie1]

I know people here will get this. It’s been about (removed by moderator) months since I finally found courage to end relationship. I’ve had great family support but today I just feel completely low. I think the emotional trauma of what I’ve been through comes through and it hits me like a wave. I’ve had to suppress so much of who I am. I’ve been silenced through emotional abuse over many years and I feel so much pain in recovery. I know I’m safe thankfully but still experiencing ups and downs. Hope it gets easier x*x

[Breadandroses]

Hi
I keep coming on here today because I feel low and I have backed myself into a corner of trying not to show that to people anymore.

I am supposed to be working but I have listened to some music, am sat here with my cat who is being extra lovely..they seem to know my cats.

I keep reminding myself it will pass.

I went round to a friend’s last night because I could feel it coming on. She is fab she just talks and talks about things. She is a very sound person who I try very hard to be like. She keeps it simple. I just needed the company and to hear her chatting away as she does about just day to day things.

It is so much to process sometimes. It does get easier. I keep reminding myself at the moment that sometimes the painful bit happens just before the light comes back.

I think I have some emotions to accept right now. I have done it before.

I wasn’t sure about being on here at all. But you know your post has just reminded me to keep struggling and wait for it to pass. Thank you. It is waves and they pass.

I am glad you have support and you sound so aware of yourself and what has happened to you. It took so much for me to even recognise that. You have made a huge step in recovery.

I want to say good luck today but that is the wrong phrase. I m not sure how to say it.

Maybe thinking of you and thankyou again.

[Breadandroses]

Hi

I just want to say. I was shown this tapping exercise called EFT and I still use it.

It helps me when I am confused about how I am feeling.

It works for me although I struggle to say the affirmation part I was taught. ” even though I feel X*X I love and respect myself” . It makes me literally blush with embarrassment x*x

[Lisa]

Hi Pookie1,

It’s understandable that you are feeling the way you are, having not long come out of an abusive relationship. Emotions and memories will come in ‘waves’, as you say, and some days will feel easier than others.

Just to make you aware, you can access free online courses created by or in partnership with therapists specialising in trauma at Bloom. These courses can be accessed in your own time and at your own pace and cover topics such as trauma, abuse and boundaries.

The Freedom Programme is an 11- or 12-week rolling programme which provides information about male violence to women. This programme identifies the tactics abusers use, the beliefs held by abusers, and the effects that domestic abuse can have on women and children. The Freedom Programme is for women who have experience of domestic abuse, be it in their personal or professional lives. You can start the programme at any time, and you can attend as many or as few sessions as you choose. Each session is entirely confidential, and you can contribute as much, or as little, of your own thoughts and experiences as you like. Many women find this a very useful support group as it is available to women whether they are experiencing current or past abuse. The Freedom Programme is run in many locations across the UK. More information about the Programme can be found on their website.

You could also try calling Supportline who offer confidential emotional support to reach people before they get to “crisis” point. They offer support by telephone, email and post. They work with callers to develop healthy, positive coping strategies, an inner feeling of strength and increased self-esteem to encourage healing, recovery and moving forward with life. They also keep details of counsellors, agencies and support groups throughout the UK. They cover a wide range of issues, including domestic abuse. They can also refer locally.

I hope this is useful. You are right in not feeling alone in what you are going through. The other women here will certainly understand. Do keep posting.

Lisa

[Breadandroses]

Hi Pookie,

Just logged on to say hope you having a better day.

X*x

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