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So today has been a horrible day, my abuser I got away from rang me up off another number demanding his stuff back from my house. I refused as he owed me money and he wasn’t having any of his stuff till he paid me it I stayed strong and stuck to my guns but as soon as I got off the phone I had a panic attack and I couldn’t stop shaking as he knows where I live.
It scared me so much the fact someone on the end of a phone could cause me so much fear and anxiety it is awful.
He did eventually send me the money and I agreed to let him collect his stuff but I had my friend and her husband here as protection and I didn’t allow him in my house I had bagged his stuff up and threw it in the garden.
But now I feel all scared, weak, emotional and like someone is squeezing my head I can’t seem to get over the fact he could cause such fear just by been on the phone.
I hope I never have to see or hear from him again!!!
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Hi, you’ve been very brave and very clever. You’ve also been through trauma so try to arrange some counselling. Talk to your GP. Unresolved trauma can cause bad mental health problems if not addressed. I was like you for a very long time whenever I saw my ex. It does lessen over time, knowing you will stand up to him now will put him off. These pathetic men are looking for vulnerable victims and you’re not one of them. Good riddance to bad rubbish x
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You did the right thing arranging to have people there with you, and putting his stuff outside. It must have been hard for you both emotionally and physically, getting that all bagged up and out there, but at least he doesn’t have that as a reason to contact you now.
KIP is right, try to get some counselling, talk through the feelings. It’s early days yet and the anger and fear of having to deal with him and stand up to him aren’t easy to deal with at all. Speaking with him brings back so much of the trauma to mind.
You did it though, it’s actually really brave of you to have done so, and dealt with all that. Reward yourself with a treat, you deserve it.
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