Triggers! A new stage to deal with 😔

[Haven]

I am now divorced but still trying to sell house. He still controls me, even though we have had a (legal detail removed by Moderator) agreed. He is trying to get me to pay up as not fair in his eyes. No chance!!

My grown up son has been visiting and we get on well. He has his dad’s traits occasionally and is self aware. He shouted at me like his dad used to about moving something and it triggered that old feeling in me but was far worse as my son was doing it and I knew he was sorry. He hugged me as I started hyper ventilating/panic attack.

It has set me back so realise now I’m carrying a lot of trauma and need to go back to therapy as now ready to deal with my healing. I still adjust my behaviour jn every day tasks.

[InShock]

Hi Haven,

So sorry to hear this. Have you considered trauma therapy? Good that your son is aware of the trigger. Is he in contact/on good terms with his abusive biological father? Hopefully he can work on these traits but might be difficult if so; good that he’s aware though

 

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