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9th August 2024 at 12:01 pm #170493
Sunsetluv
ParticipantHi everyone,
I’m going through some issues with my partner. He can be mentally abusive and controlling at times but most of the time he is amazing. However, I am always the one who’s made out to be the problem.
He has a weird thing against women he thinks we are all teases and that when he walk about with coffee cups we are teasing men. Crazy!
I know he’s like this because his (detail removed by Moderator) was when he was younger. I didn’t grow up in the best household either, my (detail removed by Moderator) was an angry person and my (detail removed by Moderator) always stood up for herself.
My partner can’t see what he is doing to me, lately my mental health has been suffering my weight has dropped and I just feel I have lost my sparkle and I’m just a walking grey cloud.
He gets really annoyed when women post selfies because he says it’s for attention. I don’t do this as I know he would do something out of spite back to me and say all I want is attention.
I think his family know what he is like, one of his family members has previously told him to get anger management he told me this but didn’t seek help or advice on this.
i hate how I’m always made out to be the problem that mentally I am starting to feel I am a burden on everyone and I feel I am a horrible person.
My self esteem is so low right now. I just feel like no one will believe me and what I’m going through.
Thank you Sunsetluv x
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10th August 2024 at 4:05 pm #170520
Karisqq
ParticipantHey, good job for writing this out. I know it can be hard to talk about it. I’m really sorry for that, that must be hard. Feeling like a burden is a sign that you may need professional help. Have you considered speaking to your GP or going to therapy? Therapy can provide coping strategies for your emotions and abusive behaviours. Seeking help for abuse is tough since he always makes you a problem, which may make you feel like you’re the problem that no one will trust or help you, but that is a common strategy for abusers to keep you with them, by making you feel like you’ve got no way to go and you can only stay. But you got this forum, people here will not judge, we’ll believe in you x I wish you all the best and find your way out as soon as possible.
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