(detail removed by Mod)..all seems to be moving quick nothing..feel so alone

[Purplegirl]

(detail removed by Moderator) im.pertrified..ive got no friends to go with as he saw to all that.. its only.got more escalated as hes been trying yo follow from the kids schools.to find out where we are living. Just feel so alone in all this..a couple of people.say they are therr for me but when it boils down to it they are not. All.this.just before xmas too.just feel so alone and helpless

[KIP.]

Victim support were great with me. Women’s aid too. Can you ring these locally and ask for support. I did the interviews alone because I would have been too embarrassed to speak in front of friends but support afterwards helped. Stay strong and report every incident to the police. There are new stalking laws they can use. Good luck. You will be great X

[shine bright 2]

Hi Purple girl,

(detail removed by Moderator) …also had no one to go with me. The police were really good. It was really hard…but they helped. I understand how u feel. I feel lonely to and feel.that I only really have friendship on a superficial level aometimes. I think because other peopel dont always understand.
(detail removed by Moderator) Im glad i did the interviews it was a chance to make people see the damage he did and to a degree it helpes me see that it was wrong what he did.
You are doing the right thing my ex uswd to wait outside the kids school too. He dis find us. He assaultes me when he did…and told me i will always be his wife. Whatever the video achieves it makea sure there is a clear powerful record. The other thing is u cud always get someone from womensaid to go with u..or victim support? If u disnt want to do that we are all there in spirit. Eveyone hwre will underatand and will u on. Im just geeting ready for work and getting kids up. But u can measage me if u like to. Ill be onlater. Kust wanted u to know i understand.

[Purplegirl]

I did the videolink interview i just cant stop thinking what if ive missed things out what he said and did? How he threatened that i hadnt got anyone and would be homeless if i told anyone, and that people would think im a bad mum if i said anything. Im panicking now what if there isnt enough evidence or enough in statements, it just doesnt feel right speaking to someone so technical over the little detail what went where so intimately and to a man who ive never met before. I just feel like he will get away with it all .. i cant remember every thing and keep going over and over it all in my head. Ive read if theres not enough info it will get dropped. Wont they even take all his controlling into it all the months before. What if he gets away with it all? He will make our lives hell. I am panicking so much going over and over everything.. hes so clever im sure he will get away with it all. What if ive forgotten other bits or should of said more info stuff. What if no one believes me he always said no one would..what if hes right.

[shine bright 2]

Hey,
When i did this i tried to keep in mind that the police have done this many many times. I felt like it was my whole world but it is what they do evey day and on the whole they are good at it.
I dont know about u but mine took hours and hours. They asked me about the tiniest details when really all i cud remember was how much it hurt. He had previously assaulted ne with objects..they wanted to know what when and how. In the end i couldnt deal with it. I had never even shown my arms or legs to a man other than my ex. I couldnt do it
You have been brave…you did something amazing. If it was dropped it wudnt be because u did nothing and let him get away with it. You did the right thing. Now u have fo trust in others to do their best for u.
My ex said i wouldnt be believed…but i was believed.

[Purplegirl]

Thank you xxxx

[KIP.]

Hi, I know how your feel. The constant brain chatter. I wrote everything down. Put it down on paper then if you feel you have remembered an important detail then you can add to your statements. You’ve been fantastically brave and now it’s over to the police to do their job. You can get a civil non molestation order if you are fearful of him. Talk to a solicitor. Most offer free initial advice. Also victims support were a great help. Ring the helpline on here too if you need to talk. No matter what happens he now realises you’re serious. He is on their radar now. Well done.

[Confused123]

Hi HUn

JUst wanted to give a few words of support, whenver u feel alone, always remember u have us here to listen to u and support u

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