was i raped

[Supergirl@]

Okay so i’ve never been on here before but i didn’t really know where else to turn. Basically a few months back i went on a night out with close Friends. I became very intoxicated and do not remember much from the whole night, (which isn’t like me at all.) I woke up the next morning in my underwear in my bed with one of my male Friends. He was very quick to leave as soon as he woke up. I was later told by the rest of my Friends that they all brought me back and put me to bed, i passed out straight away. They left me with my clothes on as it was too much hassle trying to get me into pijamas and they all left together, meaning my ‘friend’ in question came back on his own accord. When i later questioned him on what happened the night before he initially told me that nothing had happened, when i asked him how i got my clothes off he replied with ‘of course we had sex do you not remember’. He also told me that i had texted him and told him to come back, (which cannot be true as i have no messages on my phone and my Friends have told me i was in no fit state to do this.)

I didn’t report it at the time as i think the shock hid the seriousness of this situation. It has really started to affect me lately. I lock my door as soon as i come in and i am now scared to be out in the dark on my own.

I am just looking for a bit of advice on what people think about this situation. Please no crit i dont usually make a habit of getting this drunk and i feel like we should be able to trust our Friends to look after us and not take advantage.

[maddog]

Please speak to either Rape Crisis, your local police or WA. You are right that you should be able to trust your friends, no matter what situation you find yourself in. It sounds maybe as though you may have had a drink spiked. Whatever the situation, it is absolutely not your fault. It is shocking. It has taken me a generation to get as far as reporting a rape.

[KIP.]

I would ring the rape crisis helpline and perhaps visit your local rape crisis centre. You should also seek out some counselling. What he did was despicable and illegal. You have to be able to consent to sex and being so intoxicated means that you were unable to consent. The Fear and anxiety you are feeling are a result of what happened to you and mentally it needs to be addressed. It can destroy your mental health if you don’t deal with that side of things. Perhaps if you have a good GP you could talk to them. You should also think about an STI test as well. You can also ring 101 and speak to a trained police officer. Ask for someone in the rape task force if your local police have one, or sexual offences. Don’t just speak to ordinary police officers. Make sure they are from a specialist unit. Keep posting for support. Sadly many ladies on here are victims of rape too.

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