Was I right to be upset?

[Chocolatebunnie]

I’ve held it in all day, put it down to being needy, it wasn’t that bad?

 

I had a health issue that scared me, affected my (detail removed by Moderator). Text husband and we spoke. He had to go and when I felt better I let him know.

 

it took ages for him to acknowledge me and I did think how it would be nice if he’d shown more concern

 

he later told me a colleague left as their wife was unwell, well hello!

I mentioned it later on in the day and he is angry I could even doubt him. Not bothered that I felt scared or how any of this was for me.

 

am I being unreasonable after all he was at work and I know that its awkward for him.

 

Hes now in a mood and had a row with our elder kids, who are now reactive towards him and I am in the middle of it all. Kids are mad at me for not sticking up for them. I just can’t cope with it and I think I disassociate with it.

 

just feel like the bad person.

[Better-days]

CB your not a bad person at all and not over reacting even if your husband though it was a bit much to expect him to go home he does not have to have a go at u or go into a mood.  stepping on eggshells it’s not ok and I know all about it stay strong hunni big hugs xxxx

[Chocolatebunnie]

hi Betterdays, thank you ☺️ I needed your feedback really supportive and gets things in perspective.

I’ve not needed to come on here much certainly not posted recently. Things are calmer but that’s not to say I’ve forgotten how it can be.

It doesn’t sound like much but it is, to another person I’m probably overreacting, or maybe another person would just not put up with him anyway.

i am on eggshells I have to pluck up the courage to say things (I’m often in the wrong if there’s a argument) other times I remember all I have learnt and feel I push the boundaries to see if he will react (he often doesn’t, he’s the victim as I  am being assertive and I feel I am the abuser) I wonder if he’s mindful how he reacts too

 

he says sorry now after decades together but it’s not often.

 

he doesn’t seem to see things like for example if there was an accident in a car he could be more concerned about the car than he would be about the person, he disbelieves people’s pain except his mothers.

 

cb x

 

[Better-days]

I can relate to so much about everything you’re saying and i definitely would say he’s most likely not mindful of what he says. I like u am mindful sometimes then like that other times see myself being a horrible person and it’s awful it messes with your head on another level.

just wanting to be treated with the respect we deserve is it too much to ask 🥺

[nbumblebee]

Hey CB. Sounds like you are and have dealt with so much. Sometimes we crave a little live compassion from our other halves others get it so why can’t we right? You deserve it but sadly he doesn’t give it and that’s heart breaking to realise. Sending hugs x

[Better-days]

Can relate about this my partner is the least compassionate person iv ever met. I hope ur ok nbumblebee sending hugs xx

[nbumblebee]

Hey BD I’m still here, still trying to make a life.

Hope you are doing OK x*x

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