What do you do in the evenings?

[Choices]

I am doing well but I feel like I’ve no life outside working, managing the fall out of the DV (police, court, agencies calling), parenting. I have no money to go out, no childcare and I need some positive stuff to do at night. I’m missing people!

I want to chat to people, socialise, learn new things maybe but how do I go about it? I want a life outside of DV, a bit of normality but don’t know where to start. Suggestions gratefully received! x

[Twisted Sister]

Hi Choices

good on you, I admire your energy for life.

I would say its very dependent upon your age and that of your children. As having younger ones does tend to lend itself to coming into contact with loads of other parents and parties and play-dates with parents in tow, but if they are older and more independent, use the time to at least be away from the house, but where would depend on your likes, whether that be exercise or joining in with groups, maybe for exercise too, or book groups to discuss and socialise. I imagine there would be no better time than just after such long lock-downs with everyone being so keen to catch up on the socials. As the weather improves you could invite friends over to house or garden if you have one, to a few drinks and a take out (so you don’t have to cook on your night off!).

Its so personal, what your likes and dislikes are as to what direction you take. The main takeaway being that you are now free to choose?

warmest wishes

ts

[Watersprite]

Amazing – you sound strong – all of the stuff around this can take up so much so firstly I found I just had to deal with kids and agencies and work and walk that was it and sit with tough emotions. Next I did online yoga now volunteering reaching out to old friends keeping home clean. I know it’s not exciting but I’m learning and loving a calm drama free life. You are free now time to think about what you value in life and how to get round any obstacles. Your future sounds exciting and you can slowly make it what you want whoooop x

[dancingdaisy]

Hi Choices, it’s really difficult isn’t it? Part of the problem for me is that I’ve been controlled for so long I don’t really know what I actually like anymore! I’ve been reconnecting with people I wasn’t allowed to see. I also bought a few craft kits to pass the time and am quite enjoying one of them. Maybe browse Hobbycraft for a cheap kit and see if anything takes your fancy. Are there any local social media chat groups? Could be a way to chat to people on an evening when the kids are in bed and maybe even meet up with other ladies for a cuppa or something? xx

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