Why can’t I leave him

[PorcelainGrrrl]

My abusive partner has demonstrated every category of emotional n**********c abuse.

He turned cold on me because I said he did something to hurt my feelings. Gave me silent treatment for (detail removed by Moderator) days and then said he wanted to take a break because he doesn’t feel like he can be himself around me.

We haven’t spoken for (detail removed by Moderator) days and I want to be the type of human that can end it but, I’m so desperate for him to come back and feel like I’m waiting for him to say it’s over forever just because of hope.

Does anyone understand why I can’t do it?

[Flowergirl4]

Hi PorcelainGrrrl,

If you’ve been experiencing emotional abuse, your self esteem and confidence has probably taken a knock. I know in my experience no matter how much he hurt me or how angry I was with him, I still couldn’t bring myself to end things. Even after he said he wished I’d have a miscarriage and was messaging other women behind my back.
I’ve finally reached the end of my tether this week and I’ve ended the relationship and told him to leave.
Has he made any attempt to get in contact with you for the last week? I hope you can find the strength to end the relationship if that’s what you want to do, it is difficult but you need to think about how much happier you will be without the abuse.
Hope you’re okay xx

[PorcelainGrrrl]

Hey Flower Girl 6,

I’m really pleased you were able to leave and Thankyou for showing me some understanding.

No we haven’t spoken for 7 days. It’s been a whole week.

Part of me wants to end it before he does, but I feel like something awful will happen to me. It’s a weird trigger in my mind. I’ve felt this in every relationship I’ve had.

We’ve only been together (detail removed by moderator) but he’s really done a number on me.

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