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He’s gone, it’s finally happened. He received a letter from solicitor and locks changed yesterday. He’s been told to arrange contact with our little girl through a 3rd party. He’s been calling (I haven’t answered) and texting. His mum says he’s in bits and I feel terrible. I feel so guilty for doing it this way but I couldnt see any other way to get away from him apart from catching him off guard.
I just wish this was easier and I could be more angry at him x
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Stay strong. Maybe change your phone number so he can’t call or text you. Remember you wouldn’t have acted as you did if he hadn’t been abusive. If you haven’t done it already write down a list of the abusive things he did to remind yourself of why you left him. Then focus on self care – whatever that is for you and your LG. It could be simple like watching telly at breakfast time or getting back into a good sleep routine, or eating your favourite foods. Or it could be major like purging all reminders of him from your house or planning a holiday. If you are feeling guilty about still having his stuff though then maybe see if you can get a friend or family member help you pack it up and hand it over to him for you. Good luck! You have done amazingly so far – so much harder when it is your house and you have to get him out. You are an inspiration.
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Remember backtome, this will not last forever. What he’s experiencing is shock and so he will be “upset”. Although think of this. He’s probably more upset that he’s lost control of you. The fact he’s had his Mum speak to you tells me he’s trying to regain control.
You are doing the right think.
Tiffany is spot on. Remember all the things he has done. He might have been nice occasionally but on the whole he was a b*****d probably.
Stay strong.
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