Why do they lie so much?

[Mellow]

So he came round and I had a witness for some things and confronted him and he still tried to say that what he did was nothing and dosent mean anything.even though he was calling someone his wife (detailed removed by Moderator) after relationship ended he was trying to say it’s nothing and someone was there for him so he changed her name.i just think when your caught why keep lying even he shows us the evidence wherever accident or impulse I don’t know but he shows himself and still says things are meaningless what he’s done even when it hurts my feelings.
Then later wants to talk as if nothings happened.I’m trying to ignore him now holidays are over but he keeps acting like we are gunna have more kids and get back together and go away together

[Weemebreeze]

Hi Mellow

I’m sorry to hear that you’re going through this – it’s exasperating and so confusing when the lie like this. I found that my ex lied a lot – over big and small things. It was like he was trying to tangle me up in a web of deceit. I think these men are totally incapable of taking responsibility and being honest, they’re also totally driven by control so want things to be as they say (whether true or not). Either way, it’s awful being around them and it can make us really doubt ourselves.

Trust your gut
❤️

[amukay]

My ex lied a lot. I think sometimes when people lie to serve their own purpose it can get to a point where they start to believe it. I used to call him out on stupid dumb lies that didn’t matter and he’d call me pathetic. He would hate if I ever tried to iron out a disagreement over text because then he couldn’t gaslight me about what words were said as it was in black and white. I think he genuinely thought he was right sometimes. All I can say is that your instinct is right and he’ll keep doing it. I doubt it will change. You know it’s not making you happy and you shouldn’t have to put with it.

[Mellow]

It’s took me a long time to realise he’s that good at it we’ve been together years and I’ve realised I was very submissive and accepted his words all the time as I trusted him.now turns out he was living somewhat of a double life

[Hereforhelp]

We trust as we are decent, caring human beings, we are meant to trust pur partner… I can totally relate to your post Mellow, the acting like nithing has happened is designed to stop you ‘bringing up the past’ and dismissing your feelings whilst taking no responsibility for his own actions… unbelievable right!
Keep pushing forward ❤️

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