Years later

[Itsjustmeme11]

So it’s been (timeframe removed by Moderator) years since I broke away from my ex, at first I felt this incredible sense of freedom and happiness, as the years have gone by I feel more and more trapped.

i still receive emails and the odd birthday or Christmas card from him, but besides that he generally leaves me alone.

I feel by now I should have moved on with my life, maybe moved out, got a new job, maybe even a new love interest. But I’m just stuck, I don’t know if it’s because it feels like my safety net and I’m scared of moving on incase anything goes wrong?

I’m scared I’m going to be stuck in this same rut forever.

he was my second abusive partner and I’m currently experiencing a very toxic friend and I’m really struggling right now to move forward in any kind of way.

i feel like I’ve given up hope of really living my life and am just existing in my safe place.

any ideas how to move forward out of this rut please.

[Lisa]

Hi Itsjustmeme11,

I’m sorry to hear that you’re feeling so stuck. It can take time to heal from the trauma of abuse, especially if you’ve not had support to do so. You might benefit from looking into accessing talking therapy. You could contact your local domestic abuse service to see if they offer specialist counselling or can suggest local therapists who work in a trauma-informed way. Mind have a helpful guide, “How to find therapy or counselling”. You could also have a look at the resources on the Bloom website. These were created in partnership between mental health professionals and survivors and are focused on supporting people to heal from trauma. I hope, too, that you find sharing support here with other women helpful.

Take care and keep posting,
Lisa

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