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Im feeling terrible about myself. I thought I would get paid something today for the job I left, a couple of weeks ago, but have had. nothing. This is partly due to a miscalculation on my part but also they’ve got me down as off sick when I wasn’t. So I’ll have to wait until that’s sorted. But I feel like an idiot. I’ve had to borrow a small amount of money from my son. And I’ll have some money going in next week, but I was relying on having money today. I briefly wondered this morning whether it was worth me being here at all. I will ring the Samaritans if I need too.
But every time I’m in this situation again, I know a big part of it is because I left am abusive husband it’s affected me financially, as well as other ways obviously, and reallyI feel like the only people who unequivocally vavalidate hat are you ladies and women’s aid. And I really feel I’ve got not one to talk to (and today, I really miss my Mum. who died 2 years ago). Would I be wasting their time tp ring the WA helpline? I am in a bad way.
I have at least for a temp job to go to on Monday, which should last for a few weeks.
As always, I know I am out of the relationship and other women’s situations are much worse than mine. so I appreciate being able to come on here. Just feel like I can’t do anything right.
Eve
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Hi Eve,
I really relate to your situation and please do ring up and talk to someone. All this can be so isolating and demoralising. I too have lost everything after leaving my ex-partner and know it will be a long time before that’s rectified. It seems so cruel that we should have to suffer in every single way emotionally, financially, socially and psychologically when they are free to do whatever they like with whoever they like and probably ruin someone else’s life too. Sorry this is not very uplifting! I too am in ‘the pits’ today. But we must remember that we have come this far, we must accept help that can be given to us and always look for another way. That is how to survive and some time soon things will look up because we are determined people with love to share ❤️
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Thank you Alba,
I’m sorry to hear you are in this situation. I read your other post. Life with a small child is so tiring anyway, without extra stress. You sound like you have a great attitude. I hope you’ve found something about your day to lift you a little.
I’m many years out and in the past I’ve felt I should be over everything, have some job security, be stable. But now I know that’s not always possible and that abuse takes us a long time to recover from, especially as I was married for a long time.
I haven’t rung anyone today. I may do tomorrow When I have a bit of time to myself.
Thank you again
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Eve1 I hope you did ring the helpline and you feel a little better.
In the end it is just money and you work hard on rebuilding your life.I remember so well, when I was with that abusive man and had no idea how to get out, that I thought, I would be a happy person if I had just money problems right now and that man was not in my life.
Depending on our own is very hard, with rising costs for everything but too low pay for work.
However, it is so much better than the situation a few years ago.
You know that you will get out of this again.
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Hi Ayanna,
I didn’t ring anyone today. But I have written about how I feel and got out old writing from over the last few years and I reminded myself about why I had to leave, whether I had financial prospects or not. So that helped.
I think in a couple of weeks when I have some temp income coming in I will feel a lot better. Life is hard, but there’s no hope while you are in the abuse. We have to get out to have a chance of rebuilding our lives, as you say.
Thank you so much, Ayanna
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