Ajjplac

[Ajjplac]

Me too, I haven’t said anything to anyone about it as sometimes I think I’m just overthinking it in my mind and he’s probably not as bad as I think. And he is only like it when he’s having a down day, but then even on the good days I still get things said to me. Like he doesn’t like it when my child is at there dads because then in his mind I’m on my own in my house and he then thinks all sorts and then I get questioned about it the next day or have a remark made of it. Like I always remember it was one of my parents anniversary of their death and I spent the afternoon down their grave tidying up etc, and instead of ringing to make sure I was okay, I got a call saying that I should of been calling him to wake him up, I’m going to ruin Xmas as it will be over as he feels like he doesn’t want to be with me now  etc etc, and I was just like wow and that’s when it really hit me and I was like wow most people would of made sure their partner was okay but he just went the other way. I don’t know I’m trying to gather my thoughts in my head and do the right thing. Xx

[Ajjplac]

Thank you for your reply, yes everything you have said is exactly what it’s like for me. No aggression (physical) but everything is about him, and if he has a bad day it will turn into my fault. Then we can have a week of being okay, now it’s just a pattern, even when my phone rings I just automatically think oh god what’s it going to be today, I have offered him numbers for counselling as he knows he has an issue but he will not do anything about it (which also speaks volumes) some things he saids are just so nasty, I defend myself which I never use to do and he hates it, gets in a mood cause I’ve spoken back, I say to him I’m not going to sit here quiet. Then the next breath talks like nothings been said, if I don’t do something for him just in general I then get so you don’t want to do that to make me happy, that’s when I first noticed the manipulative side which I didn’t like, but your right I know what I have got to do I’ve just got to pluck the courage to do it now. I didn’t know the council could help in these sort of situations to be honest. X thank you for your reply! X

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