Hi clarityneeded
I’m pretty new here and just starting to negotiate my way through custody. Hopefully someone with a bit more experience will come along soon, but this is what I know. As soon as I started discussing maintenance payments my ex stated he would be having the children every weekend, both my solicitor and dv support workers have said if custody is decided in court commonly he would be allocated everyother weekend and maybe a night in the week. His response was part of the abuse, they know how precious our children are to us. Have you got a support worker? Mine is so great and talking things through when I’m in a panic. Also in my experience solicitors seem to go down the route of “he’s the father and has to have contact so get on with it” where my support workers have been much more cautious, but as someone said you should listen to the experts (and your gut!) and I think my support workers are more aware of dv situations. Good luck with everything, remember you are their Mum and that counts! xx
