Hi HopeLifeJoy,
Thank you so much for your response!
I really appreciate you taking the time to write all of that.
I fear you might be correct… alongside saying WE are doing a great job at parenting,he often tells me what a great job HE is doing at parenting. If he’s looked after the children whilst I’m at work, a few times he has said “it’s chaos looking after both of them in public on your own, you wouldn’t be able to do it” alongside telling me how successful it was for him to do it, even if he found it tricky.
When my eldest was tiny, if he fell off something, my husband’s reaction would often be “what did YOU do?!” Which I found really stressful and hurtful. He even did that at a pub in front of people once. He doesn’t do that anymore though.
He says that he is nothing without me, I’m the best person he could ever have, if we ever split up that would be it for him, he’s so lucky etc.
He has sometimes used phrases like “i chose you” in reference to us deciding to get together, which I find quite odd.
He is pretty friendly most of the time, it’s just when I write down his behaviours I start thinking they sound a bit strange.
