Cakeandtea

[Cakeandtea]

Also adding that I’m getting my hair done tomorrow, the last time I saw my hairdresser she noticed my hair had been coming out in chunks which would be from stress which would be hard to notice as it’s so thick! She said it very politely and I wanted the chair to swallow me up hopefully it’s not as awkward this time!

[Cakeandtea]

Thank you everyone for taking the time out of your days to reply! I think I downplayed his actions when I was pregnant as I didn’t want to be stressed and wanted a calm environment to bring the baby into. when we close a box on our feelings they have a way of creeping back in and I think this is what’s happened now it’s all become reality. I do have voice recordings of threats and many texts some are so horrific saying how he will come and cut me up whilst I’m asleep and kill 2 birds with 1 stone (while pregnant). I think the next happening of his threats or violence I am going to take further action for me and my son. His family are even scared of him lying about seeing the baby etc it’s just a negative environment but luckily I have some time before my son will understand to work it all out. I just want him to have a family life like we all yearn for but I need to accept that’s not possible and it’s not safe. I do feel very lucky I escaped when I was pregnant as I now realise if he had control once baby was here I wouldn’t be able to get out so easily. I almost feel silly if I rung the women’s aid numbers as I don’t have black eyes or physical harm but I guess that’s their control they have over us. I think it’s so hard to define abuse these days but if its damaging you as a person it’s not right X

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