Hi everyone this is my first post and first of all I’d like to say how much I’m getting from reading everyone’s stories and realising I’m not the only one going through this and I’m not nuts or blowing things out of proportion. I split from my ex several months ago but still rely on him to look after our very young son while I’m at work, however this has just empowered my ex to continue his controlling behaviour over me. I have recently decided that I now need to have zero contact with him and have told him that contact with his son will have to be done through a contact centre now. But I am now faced with telling my employer as I’m going to have to change my working hours. I have the same anxieties as janedoeissad that it will be played down or not taken seriously or even worse that my employer might not be able to accommodate the hours I can do now. I know this is something I need to do but I’m terrified. My self esteem is rock bottom and I’m so worried I will be judged or ridiculed. I feel so stupid for allowing myself to get into this situation.
