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    • #155945
      Detail7
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      Thankyou. It took a lot for me to admit I needed/wanted help. And even more to actually get an appointment with a therapist. But it didn’t help me.
      I worry that he told her to join in before I got there. She has accused him of raping her. But without her talking (which is understandable) I’ll never know for sure.
      All I want is my ex. I am tempted multiple times a day to contact him. It’s vile of me.

    • #151314
      Detail7
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      I fell out with him again, asked my mum to keep my phone and laptop away from me so I wouldn’t be tempted to be in contact with him. She just kinda snubbed the idea. I get it, I’m an adult, and she’s not my keeper. But she will be really mad when she finds out Ive been talking to him again. All I do is hurt people. All I do is let them down.

    • #141982
      Detail7
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      She’s really mad at me. He told her a few days ago I was a prostitute (true). She gives me the cold shoulder for days when she’s mad at me, barely speaking. He came back and posted money through my door and she was so mad at us both. Said I need to learn who to trust and should only trust family. I am starting to feel trapped whatever I do

    • #141281
      Detail7
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      Oh it was definitely not a good idea for me to get between him and his drugs, I had this naive idea that I could help him that way.
      My mum acts a bit distant with me, giving me the cold shoulder when I’ve spent too long at his.She knows I have an older boyfriend. She doesn’t know a lot of our history, and he threatens to tell her, and that would at best really upset her, at worst I fear i would lose my relationship with her.
      It’s strange. I know so much about drug addiction and abusive relationships, but I walked right into one. I’ve been researching help for him. And his family.
      Thankyou x

    • #141278
      Detail7
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      We don’t live together. I live with my mum and he comes to my house when we argue or if I stop talking to him. Once I left the house I realised I didn’t have any money on me to get home and he was phoning me asking me to come back. He says he’s gonna stop this time. I don’t want to be with a drug addict, but I do want to be with him. Thankyou for replying

    • #150146
      Detail7
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      To be fair to her. I started seeing him behind her back cos I was lonely. And once again brought a load of trouble to her house. So she has reason not to trust me.

    • #141338
      Detail7
      Participant

      I’m sorry you went through all that. I don’t understand how he can be so cruel and scary one moment and so kind and caring the next. Why is the good side of him not the real side of him? I feel so attached to him, the first few times I tried to break up with him I really wanted to get away from him, but now I don’t know if I do. I just want him to stop being horrible to me.

    • #141337
      Detail7
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      She looks down on people who get in that predicament. Says it’s their own fault for taking photos like that in the first place.
      She is still being quiet with me. She doesn’t know him, she doesn’t like me going out so much and leaving her alone.
      He won’t stop arguing with me over messages. Even when we have a good day together or make up he starts arguing over the same things sometimes only hours later. He is now saying he doesn’t need professional help.

    • #141304
      Detail7
      Participant

      I’m not underage. My mum doesn’t like me going out so much, she was the same when I went out with other people.
      I hate knowing that I wouldn’t be able to stop him saying bad things to my mum, he has screenshots, pictures, videos. I really fear that it would ruin our relationship. Then I’d have nowhere to live too.
      Thanks x

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