I have taken a while to grasp acknowledge whats going on i saw on another forum reckmmedation to read a really useful book by lundy bancroft ‘why does he do that’ and i kinda just had this feeling of it is abuse it is not in my head.
I took part in this questionaire although my relationship is (number removed by Moderator) years in and answered yes to 10 as it says ever happened the explanation really helped to understand different elements and how its still not ok. eg. doesnt have to physically stop you but the how he makes me feel to change my decision or second guess and sway to please to then change how he is being towards me.
Unfortunately ive now had conversation up front and honest addressing and pointing out. Im getting same response i have had. I ackowledge what your saying and sorry i made you feel that way.
‘I am trying been working hard on my self. I want to work on relationship dont you? I at this point pointed the years of choosing to try.
Am i just being gullable now like i stood my ground but hes saying especially last (number removed by Moderator) months and not giving it long enough he is working on himself but it takes time and granted there has been bit of change but he keeps saying to move foward into future need to forget past.
I feel like that is true to a degree but also past is effecting future,im so emotionally and psychologically damaged become shell of myself and i dont even know if im seeing things that arent there based on past making triggers so am i truley not giving him chance to show the change?
