Minnie156431

[Minnie156431]

Thank you, I’ll have a look into them

 

sorry it took me a while to reply he’s been home a lot & can’t get caught on here.

It’s been awful! Fed up of hearing “nothing I do is enough for you” when it is purely the bare minimum that I ask of him

[Minnie156431]

Thank you xx

[Minnie156431]

Thank you – I’m dropping from full time to part time to spend more time with our little one but yet it never feels enough for him.

im soo drained & feel like when he isn’t around im a different person & live for the days he’s at work & gym or out

I wished I could say I knew that I wasn’t doing everything wrong! I tell myself I’m doing everything I can but then he just seems to make me feel like o ain’t

[Minnie156431]

Thank you – I’m dropping from full time to part time to spend more time with our little one but yet it never feels enough for him.

im soo drained & feel like when he isn’t around im a different person & live for the days he’s at work & gym or out

[Minnie156431]

I am so sorry to hear how bad this got for you but am soo happy to hear you finally got away!

I can resonate with so much of what you said- to everyone else we live a perfect life he’s an angel around others cannot do enough.

i live for nights he’s at gym I feel soo much more at ease – he can be a good dad but also  will sit on his phone & ignore them which breaks my heart as our little one only wants his dads attention- our little one isn’t well & cried through bath time & got in such a state so I got him out after I quickly washed him & his words were to our little was (communication removed by Moderator)

 

it breaks my heart soo much.
I love him but this has only been this bad (timeframe removed by Moderator) maybe and it breaks my heart

I think I know I’m going to have to end things but I just can’t bring myself too.
how weak am I!

We even have jokes on a wife should do 4 things – (communication removed by Moderator) but if I don’t “joke” back I can’t take a joke.

thank you for your words xx

[Minnie156431]

Thank you for your reply.

It is so exhausting mentally. I have once again upset them by “trying to help where it is not wanted” in their words all I did was purchase an item for our little ones (detail removed by Moderator) to cut to size rather than order measured it to get it sorted as they keep sayng “I will do it” but never do.

[Minnie156431]

Hi Lisa,

Thank you for the reply.

I know I am not alone and alot of people have it alot worse with Physical abuse and extreme emotional abuse.

I am scared of this getting worse if i walk away, and how it will impact my little one, I hate the though of if he acts like he does with our little one when i am around what is it like when i wouldnt be there and also that he will try take my little one away.

I have a great network of support but I am scared he will use my Mental Health against me and try use my little one as a weapon.

I feel soo confused at the moment as I am in 2 minds as what would it be like if i leave and also, what if he changes or it is just a blip in our marriage/relationship

[Minnie156431]

That it is.

I just honestly do not know what to do and feel so drained, I have found that I no longer have the energy to argue now and when comments are made I either agree or tell him to make good on his threats of leaving etc.

I hope he just decides to walk one day and make this easier on me.

I am staying for the exact same reasons.

I did not think I was being abused mentally until I was reading a book which had Mental abuse in & a story line on a  TV show i was watching and I started to question my own life/.

[Minnie156431]

Thank you so much for this, I think deep down I know, I just hate that it has potentially come to this, we live with my parents and he has no where else to go.

I also think that there is secret debt, a while back I was out, came back and asked if he did his paperwork like he said (just starting conversation) to be told I had business to sort, I asked what business and was told none of my business.

I think I am trying to make this work for our little one as I do not want to cause them any stress or bring them up in a broken home but I know if they ever treated a someone like this I would go mental.

I cannot imagine having to split time with our little one and not having them with me 24/7.

I do not even know what to do or where to start.

He constantly talks about moving across the world – the last time he did this I was deadset that if he goes he will be going alone and I wont stop him but then he changed his mind and said he dont want to leave me and our little one.

I don’t know if i am ready to walk away just yet as apart of me is telling me it wasnt like this always and maybe something I have done?

When we are good we are good but is that enough?

I think that he realization has only just started to sink in – All I want is to give our little one a happy home.

Part of me is also so embrassed to walk away and I do not know why?

I am married yet feel like a single parent most of the time.

Sorry this is all over the place I just do not know where else to turn.

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