This message resonated with me. I met my ex on the Internet and I too wasn’t honest with her about my past. When I was younger, (detail removed by moderator) I met a man in the Internet who was ten years older than me and got pregnant, it was a very messed up time for me, I was seeing someone else at the time and cheated on them and let them believe they were the parent of my baby. I told the truth eventually, and have lived with the guilt all my adult life. I didn’t tell my ex about this until a year into our relationship. She would always use this as an excuse for her violence towards me. I was ashamed and didn’t want her to think badly of me. I was constantly walking in egg shells from the very start, have had my nose broken and been thrown around and once she tried to suffocate me with a pillow. I have now left the relationship even though they got back in touch with me and said how sorry they were and how they realised they needed to change. It didn’t work out again but I am missing them terribly and blaming myself thinking that my lies drove them to acting this way.
