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    • #146829
      SuperAppleby
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      I hve tried to have a one on one talk with him but it seems getting nowhere. He said that he will get all the evidence so that I won’t work where I work, (detail removed by Moderator) he said that he will het evidence because it seems I am comitting adultery, he will ring (detail removed by Moderator) and ask.
      I honestly don’t have any qualms if he rings anyone, it’s more of like I don’t want anyone involved. He already thinks that my friends are influencing me in my decisions, so I have isolated myself from friends so they don’t get involved.
      I don’t know what to do.

    • #146828
      SuperAppleby
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      Thank you all for your replies.
      I have a lot of worries and fears.
      I have been thinking of leavingy home but I am afraid of the uncertainly especially with a toddler with me. I don’t want to leave him and come back later.
      Sometimes I feel sorry for my husband too.
      My fears are: money matters, home and accomodation and child’s mental well being.
      I feel selfish as well for feeling like this.

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      SuperAppleby
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      Sorry for the very post.

    • #146797
      SuperAppleby
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      For the question of what he does for me or my little one, I am not sure. He feels that He is supporting me, he tells me that he is at home looking after our child and that I am taking him for a fool, because I am doing what I want( choosing the job I like) I have told him that he has a choice to go to work instead of me. But he does not want to.
      He feels that I prefer friends than being with him. In all honesty, I like being woth friends as I feel more relaxed. At home, it feels like extention of work, I can’t relax. I tend to see friends twice per month just so I don’t go into breakdown. After 4 days of work, I feel like I deserve it too. I feel sorry for him sometimes because he said he feels neglected, but when I am at home he sleeps until 1-2 pm.
      If I bring up the topic of divorce he said that he will ruin my career and that I will never work in this country. I don’t know what to do. I want to leave but I don’t have enough to pay for deposit at the moment. I am also paying all the house bills, his debts. He said that he is entitles to all my monies and properties. I don’t have a house but I have a lease car

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