Thank you for your replies.
The more I have thought about it today, especially after last nights argument the more I now realise he is being controlling and abusive. So many times he tells me who he wouldn’t cope without me and wouldn’t know what to do if I wasn’t here. But then the next minute am every name under the sun. When I have a moment I will speak to work to see if I can get some time in work to call women’s aid to get the right help/ support. I think the time has come now that I cannot carry on, we have been together (detail removed by moderator)