How did anyone go about putting themselves first instead of always worrying about him? This is my problem. I’m always worrying more about how he will cope, what he will do, how he will survive with his incredibly manipulative Mother etc.
He often tells me I’m selfish, only care about myself and don’t offer him any support with his Mother who is usually always unwell in one way or another or any other problems he encounters. Then I ask well what do you want me to do?! He says I shouldn’t be asking him how I can help and this just shows how unsupportive I am.
How do you start to put yourself first? I know I’m not perfect but I’m always worrying about others more than myself.