feeling a little bit low

I think you will. You’re full of courage! Don’t give him the satisfaction of grinding you down again and winning this round, you’re stronger than him and you know it.
We won’t know which day it is as you csnt tell us but you can bank on support from here.
Show him how you’ve grown and gained strength and self belief. If you dont feel confident don’t let him guess!
I believe you can do it especially after everything you’ve achieved so farxxx

shinebright,

I’m so glad you’re free from living with him. I’m so glad you and your little ones got away from him. I was so fearful for you. You really are a miracle survivor. There were so many times I feared for your life, that you would never get away from him. Remember the ‘knife’ incident and the fear and terror he put you and your little girls through. Well done for your courage and strength.

Of course you’re feeling low. Its another big ordeal to go through, dealing with the courts. I found it terrifying and my situation was only going to court for a legal separation (well he was trying to take our house and our children all for himself), so that was the fear for me.

Keep posting daily for support. We will carry you through this week. Allow the natural consequences for his abusive actions to happen to him.

Take it one day at a time and on the day take it one hour at a time. You can do this.

Hi Shine Bright 2, many courts have a victim support unit, volunteers who support the victims. They can sit in the waiting room with you, giving you some company and they can also go into the courtroom with you. They can also arrange a pre-trial visit in the court and explain the procedure to you. All this reduces the anxiety.
Ask for these volunteers. They are a great source of support whilst you wait for the hearing and it does not feel so scary.
I had such support with my very first court hearing. Unfortunately I could not get anybody any more for the other hearings. But there are also the McKenzie friends, who come to court with you. You need to speak to them and tell them on time when you have the hearing.
Do you get any input from Victim Support?
Ascent, who is liaised with the Women and Girls Network, also provides support for court hearings.
It is a very hard time and you need every support you can get to see this through. You can also arrange for Ascent to call you when the hearing is over. After a hearing, do not go home straight, go for a walk or meet a friend, or call WA, …. Distraction is very important.
You can do this!
Remember, you are a shining star! You lead by example! You show so many other women that breaking the silence and taking the abuser to the court is the correct way to deal with them. x*x

It is determination, not strength, the longing for justice and also the wish to protect other potential victims.
I am glad I saw it through, although the outcome was disappointing.
I know that I could not forgive myself in a number of years had I kept quiet. He would have killed me most likely.
Be very careful. I still look around when I leave the house or go home. I still lock all the windows and lock the doors and pull the curtains. I am very vigilant. Before I go to my house I first watch the surrounding if I notice suspicious people, cars, whatsoever. I watch my back whether somebody follows me. I take my time. Sometimes I stand in a corner and watch before I decide that I am safe to walk to my house. My mobile is always in my hand, with GPS on, ready to dial 999.

Shiny,

You are brave. You’ve been through masses, and severe stuff too, and you are amazingly strong and courageous.

You can do this. Follow all the wonderful advice above.

You will be able to do it on the day. I was worried I wouldn’t, but adrenaline takes over plus your determination to speak your truth.

I hope your children are ok. Take special care of yourself. You can do this x

Hello there, these thoughts are what he has planted and nothing to do with reality. Decent normal people will see right through this awful man. You would too if you were in the jury. I don’t think you mentioned giving evidence via video from a completely different location. Find out if this is available. It should be under these circumstances. I gave evidence and it’s not half as bad as you think. People are so sympathetic and helpful. You can do it. And hopefully put a line under this part of the nightmare. Stay strong❤️ Remember it’s a roller coaster and tomorrow will be a better day x